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May 11, 2017 at 10:19 pm by Angela

The last few days everything that has happened over the last month suddenly hit me. The turbulant times at work, some stresses at home and, on top of that, some random virus (giving me stomach cramps, diziness and headaches) saw me smash into an emotional and physical brick wall. I wasn’t motivated to do anything more than the mundane at work. I ticked off all the core chores at home but nothing more. I skipped any exercise plans and then abandoned planning all together. And, most unusually, I lost any inclination to blog. To read. To tweet. To Instagram. To even go on my computer and pretend.

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It was such a weird feeling. As I mentioned in a blog post back in March, I have been blogging for 10 years. During that entire period, the only time I have stopped blogging is after my mum died. After that it took me almost 4 months before I put fingers to keyboard. I just lost the inspiration. I didn’t know what to say. Even when I did write my first post after such a long absence, I then didn’t blog for another 2.5 months.

Since having Little H, blogging has become a core part of who I am. I discovered the parent-blogger community who share tales of the highs and lows of parenthood. I joined linkys to share my material and relished having people read my posts and share their experiences in comments. That interaction at many points has really helped me emotionally. Like when Little H had a febrile convulsion and I had to take her to hospital whilst Sam was abroad with work; so many lovely bloggers read and sympathised, making me feel much less alone. Usually when I find the world is getting on top of me, the blogging world (be it either reading or writing) is where I turn. It helps take me out of myself, gives me a way to get things off my chest or assures me I’m not alone with my feelings.

So to suddenly find that I didn’t want to do any of that was very alien to me. It forced me to reflect on the time I spend on my blog and realise that it is easy to take something that’s a hobby and make it a chore. By trying to share my posts more widely over the last 5 months – and get more comments – I have started to lose focus on why I am doing this. During times of stress, rather than realising that I should just write for me, I now feel the pressure of hitting my own self-imposed deadlines for set posts. The pressure to join a growing list of Linkys. Pressure that I just don’t need on top of everything else.

So this post was unplanned. It is just a brain dump of thoughts. But it’s how I’ve been feeling and it’s something I need to change. When I am asked to share blogging advice like in the recent Blogger Recognition Award, I always say to be true to yourself and know what you want your blog to be. I have not followed my own advice and ended up finding my blog a burden; feeling guilty for not giving it attention when the thing that needed attention was me. Myself. I.

BobbleSlippers
I felt low. I bought myself crazy slippers!
They helped.

Fortunately my illness has gone. All is good at home again. The work stresses remain but I have now put them into perspective. I found my desire to write once more. But I also now know that the world doesn’t end if I take some time out from my blogger life for a few days. In fact, I should probably do it more often!

[My complete coincidence, just as I was sitting down to write this, I read the latest rhyme from the super-duper Dawn from Rhyming With Wine about the pressure of blogging stats. She also referenced a post from MeetOtherMums called ‘Who Stole the Blogging Mojo?‘. They were so relevant that I knew I had to put virtual pen to digital paper and just type for once. If you’ve ever felt how I feel then give these two little gems a read!]

This post has been linked-up to some of the amazing linkys below:

Tammymum  

3 Little Buttons   Mummuddlingthrough

Bringing up Georgia   Dear Bear and Beany

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Tags: #BlogCrush, #CoolMumClub, #DreamTeam, #FamilyFun, #fortheloveofBLOG, #KCACOLS, #MarvMondays, Blog, demands, expectation, pressure, priority,
 
Some comments:
  1. I’ve read both of these, and now yours. We all go through it. I was actually quite upset and felt dejected a few weeks ago – I had my parents visiting then I took 3 days away with my husband, virtually a whole week without blogging. My stats were terrible! My Klout was awful! My twitter pathetic. I honestly felt like a failure. But in perspective, I spent an amazing week with my family and husband. Much more worthwhile and far more meaningful. Perspective.
    #dreamteam

    • I’m glad that you realised what a wonderful time you’d had in real life. It just goes to show how fickle blog stats are. My stats dropped off terribly last week and part of me felt sad until I realised it didn’t really matter. The moment I start sharing again I get the interaction I enjoy. I’m sure you do too. And you’ll be much more refreshed from spending the time with your family! Thanks for reading xx

    • Yes it really is difficult to balance. It’s also tough to dedicate time to blogging as a hobby when so many other jobs are building up around you! Thanks for reading and your lovely comment xx

  2. I know the feeling! It’s as though I lose my blogging mojo every few weeks – usually if I’m out of ideas or just really exhausted. But I try to remind myself that it’s better to take time to write something that I’m proud of an enjoy then to just churn out content for the hell of it. #FamilyFun

    • Definitely, you’ve said it so wonderfully. I hate the thought of you just writing for the sake of writing. I think if you are using your blog as a source of income then needs must. But when it’s just a journal of life and a way to interact then perhaps taking time out is the best option! Thanks for reading xx

  3. I’m glad to hear you’re feeling better now. I do think the stresses that come with trying to grow your blog can take the fun out of it and crush motivation – and that’s aside from any health issues, which I always find cause me to struggle for motivation. I find stepping away and taking a break always allows me to come back to things refreshed – nothing suffers because of it, and I get my mojo back! #FamilyFun

    • You’re completely right that the world doesn’t stop when one takes a blogging break. I need to learn to embrace the quiet times when so many bloggers take time off during school holidays. When the world is taking a break then I should just go with the masses! Thanks for reading x

    • They’re amazing slippers aren’t they! I’ll be honest, they’ve had mixed reviews. But I like them and my two year old thinks they are really fun (she calls them “bobble slippers”) so that’s all that matters. Thanks for your comment xx

    • Yes, I think I need to give myself a break for a bit and not try to do too much. I enjoy people reading my blog but it’s not my career so I don’t need to beat myself up if my stats drop off when I want to just watch telly!! Thanks for reading x

  4. I completely empathise with this. My blogging mojo is regularly up and down. Sometimes I really can’t get motivated. I am pleased to hear that things are improving for you – and it is always therapeutic to brain dump! x #SharingtheBlogLove

    • Haha, I think 80% of my blog is brain dumps! I guess sometimes we are just in ‘getting on with it’ mode and don’t have much we want to say! Thanks for reading xx

  5. I have felt like this at times, I need to stress less and take a break more. But I think we are all a bit guilty of being like that.
    #FamilyFun

    • I think it’s a combination of competitive mum-blogger syndrome with a hit of get-everything-done-if-it-kills-you mum behaviour. It’s important to focus on what’s really a priority but I forget that sometimes and focus too much on the stats my blog has had. Thanks for reading x

    • You’re so right. When things are going on in Real Life, blogging is sometimes hard too as you don’t always want to share the things consuming your brain. I guess that’s where I’ve been. I’m actually enjoying not forcing myself to do blog activity everyday and am just easing myself back in! Thanks for reading xx

  6. This really resonates – lately I’ve been struggling to find the time and inspiration too. I’ve limped along but felt my posts have been a bit rubbish. Is it better to post something or wait for the gems? Who knows! Either way I’m glad to have you back xx
    Thanks for sharing with #coolmumclub
    MMT recently posted…High Five to the honest Mum blogs #solidariteaMy Profile

  7. It’s hard to find motivation to blog sometimes isn’t it, especially when there’s so much going on in life and work etc. Glad you’ve got your blogging mojo back! #sharingthebloglove

  8. It’s interesting how we can lose sight of why we started blogging and the stats etc can take over. I feel it often! #coolmumclub

    • Yes, I don’t really care about my stats. I’m just happy if a few people read and, hopefully, enjoy my posts. But yet I still check them and feel bad when they drop because I’m having some much needed time out! Thanks for reading and sharing xx

  9. I’m in the middle of this, can’t be arsed feeling. I guilted myself out for a few hours then decided to go out and enjoy time with my kids without the phone and today I am reading blogs and writing again, well I’m just reading other blogs from #blogcrush and writing comments on them, too me this is back writing 🙂

    • I’ve mainly been doing the same too! Sometimes the interaction with other bloggers is enough and soon enough the content for our own will come back to us. Good on you for leaving the phone behind and enjoying your kids. I have disabled notifications on a lot of my social media so it doesn’t intrude now. It’s been good for me! Thanks for reading xx

  10. I agree with you about Dawn’s post – the moment we think about stats the mojo gets affected. I have only ever written when I feel like written – I have no schedule, no idea what my DA is, not entirely sure what SEO and Moz mean but I know I like writing and ultimately that should be the reason for writing and if you don’t feel like it then leave it a few days for sure. Glad you’re feeling better, lovely and hope your blogging bug returns soon xx #BlogCrush
    justsayingmum recently posted…Pushing Adulthood AwayMy Profile

  11. My stats have been shocking this year, I don’t do comment/share threads anymore, and I only do a few linkies. It works for me, because I don’t really care as long as I’m proud with my blog. So I rarely get down or lose my blogging mojo. It helps I have so many post ideas to write – I just need more time to write.

    It’s good for everyone to take time out sometimes to remember why they do it. #Sharingthebloglove

    • That’s a great mindset to be in. I used to be that way and somewhere along the line I have got a bit more consumed by it all. The last few weeks I have just said “s*d it” and abandoned a linky at the last minute. And you know what, the world carried on and I didn’t have to squeeze reading & commenting into my evening. If I’m going to do it, I’d rather give it my attention that try to do it whilst spending time with my husband, watching tv etc etc. Thanks for sharing your experiences xx

  12. I haven’t been blogging long so this hasn’t happened…yet! although, I do find Ive lost my Insta mojo a bit just recently!
    great post #blogcrush

    • Well when it does inevitably happen – be it in a month or a year – just take a breath and give yourself some time out. Dwelling on it makes it all worse. I’m enjoying having a bit of space as I just dabble in a few linkys etc again. Thanks for reading x

  13. This is definitely a thing! I think we all go through it and I know I have, I’ve taken a bit of a step back and realise it doesn’t matter at all. I have the one deadline #familyfun which I don’t want to lose as I love the little community we have going on but I find it a struggle sometimes to actually get a post written for it these days. It happens eventually though! Normally on Tuesday night 😂
    Take breaks but never stop xxx
    ‪Thank you for linking up to the #familyfunlinky‬
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    • I love that advice: “Take breaks but never stop”. That’s my new mantra. I need to take more breaks! I know you’ve written a lot about stepping back a little. I think that’s a great thing for you. It certainly hasn’t stopped me reading your blog any less regularly. I only have a limited time to read blogs so I feel like I’m missing out on fewer great posts when people like yourself write a little less often 😉 Thanks for reading xx

  14. I’m so sorry you’ve had a bit of a hard time. I’m glad things are better now though. It’s such a shame blogging became a chore given what a long standing hobby it is to you. But hopefully like you say re prioritising and writing for you again will help but you’re right sometimes a break is just what you need. Lots of love. Thank you for joining us at #familyfun

    • Yes, I think I just over-committed myself with nobody watching and judging but me! Amazing how easy it is to stress yourself out isn’t it. Just taking it easy and doing what I feel like when I feel like it. Although I must get a post ready tonight for your linky tomorrow 😉 Thanks for reading xx

  15. Hi, I’m glad that you are feeling better. Sometimes it’s good to have a break even if you’ve not done it before. Glad you’re back on it now #marvmondays

    • Yes I think I’ve taken one planned break before last year, but the fact I can’t remember to be sure shows I probably need to step back a little bit! Thanks for reading xx

  16. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. The blogging community is so fab, there is always someone there to offer support when things aren’t going great. There is always so much going on & taking a step back really helps put things in perspective. #marvmondays

    • Completely. I love that someone is usually going through, or has just been through, what you write about. Thanks for your lovely comment xx

    • Hopefully you’ll be all the more motivated from your break! Nice to know I wasn’t alone in flopping around and doing nothing 🙂 Thanks for reading xx

  17. It’s awful when you don’t feel well. Glad you feel better now. I liked your post because we all feel like this sometimes but rarely say anything. #marvmondays

    • Thank-you, I’m glad it resonated. When you see so many awesome bloggers just churning out content, it’s hard to feel anything other than a failure when you hit a mental wall. But we’re all different, with a different focus and different demands. So we just need to give ourselves a break! Thanks for your lovely comment x

  18. I think all bloggers go through a stage like this I know I did a couple of months ago. I simply had nothing to say anymore. Glad you are feeling better lovely #marvmondays

    • You’ve hit the nail on the head – sometimes we just don’t have anything to say at that point. I’m not capable of writing when my mind is consumed with other things which aren’t for my blog. It really did help giving myself space to process everything. Thanks for your wonderful comment xx

  19. I’ve had a couple of moments since I started blogging that made me take a step back and look at everything that I was doing for my blog. To change things and make it fun again. It can become all a bit consuming at times. Thank you for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove
    Laura – Dear Bear and Beany recently posted…Living Arrows 21/52 {2017}My Profile

    • It really is worthwhile re-assessing what you’re doing and why. Sometimes you start doing things for the wrong reasons but without realising it! Thanks for reading x

    • Oh please do keep blogging. I enjoy your posts and learning from your experiences! It isn’t easy though, especially when it’s a hobby not everyone understands like they would if I went rowing again or something. Thanks for reading x

  20. Good to hear you’ve found your desire
    To write again. I suppose blogging is like other jobs or passions we are allowed our bad days / down time as well. #marvmondays

    • Yes, I think it’s easy to forget that there are up and down times with everything! Thanks for reading x

    • Thanks. Sorry to hear you’re not feeling it though. I’m sure it will pass. It’s always hard at the start of summer I find because you just want to enjoy the sunshine! Thanks for reading xx

  21. I think we put way too much pressure upon ourselves where our blogs are concerned. We need to remember it’s ok to take a step back, breath and live life

    • You’re so right. It’s easy to forget that whilst you could achieve what others are doing, if it doesn’t mesh with your life or priorities then it will just stress you out! Thanks for reading xx

  22. Great to hear that your work stresses have gone, that’s great! But don’t stress over your blog, it’s good for you to have time out from it. Your blog shouldn’t become a burden, as you’ll just fall out of love with it. Close the laptop, watch telly, have a bath, and come back to it when you’re ready. Thanks for linking up at #fortheloveofBLOG. Claire x

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