Welcome to my monthly feature in which I share some of my favourite online articles for the month. I read a lot of blog posts and articles online and whilst I share a lot of them through tweets, it’s easy to miss them and hard to come back to them at another time. This is a list of my top ten reads for the month, a mixture of formal news articles and blog posts. Enjoy!
I have never been one to take medicine myself unless I really need to. (Although since becoming a mum and not being able to rest when I’m sick, I find myself giving in more easily now-a-days!) So since H hit the Calpol milestone of two months, everytime she seems ill, I start the “Should I give her Calpol? Does she need it or is she just tired? etc etc” debate. This blog post from Mum Muddling Through really summed up how I feel! It also reassured me that I’m probably doing the best I can to only give Little H medication when I think she really needs it.
I found myself nodding along to every single line of this post by The Mum Reviews. I had a loose birth plan for Little H’s birth. But then my waters broke before I started contractions, there was meconium in them and everything went completely off plan from there. To this day (it’s almost 2 years now) I still feel like I didn’t quite manage to give birth ‘properly’. I wish I hadn’t created a ‘plan’ now!
A second feature for The Mum Reviews this month. I read this particular post on a day where Little H was at nursery and Sam and I had the day-off at home. I realised that whilst I relished the child-free time, I missed her being there bringing life to the house. That day I found myself heading off to collect her a little earlier than normal. Every parent needs and deserves a break from their children regularly to focus on themselves. But more than that, it really does make you appreciate your time with them!
I loved this article from Mother Pukka on Stylist. Some of the real-life experiences she references are astonishing. I am know that I wouldn’t dare ask in an interview about Maternity packages. I find it very upsetting that a woman having a child is seen in such a negative way.
Mummy Wales really hits the nail on the head with this post. There is so much talk about flexible working but very few companies actually hire staff on reduced hours. As a working parent it’s gamble enough trying to get reduced hours in a job you’ve had since pre-child. But what if you are made redundant like Mummy Wales?? Businesses operating in the UK need to re-evaluate how the recruit people. I’m happy in my job but I do have a general feeling of anxiety knowing that I have minimal options to move now.
I just happened-upon this article when I saw a tweet of it from Wired. As the wife of an avid cyclist, I was intrigued. Some of the outcomes made me laugh but I also love the sentiment of the guy who carried out the experiment; that it showed the extent of the human imagination and what a group of people can create. You can also see the full set of cycles on the Velocipedia site.
Seven: What If It Was Your child?
I love almost every post from Just Saying Mum but this one really struck a chord. So many children suffer at the hands of bullies. Whilst the stereotype is a kid having his head stuck down the toilet, bullying takes much more sinister forms. I was a victim of mild bullying at school; it was just verbal comments and remarks but eventually they stick. These days children can’t escape thanks to social media and mobile phones. I hate to think of Little H ever being bullied. Any parent should read this.
Eight: Storms don’t last forever
Another blogger whose posts are always a thought-provoking read is What My Fridge Says. This one makes the valid point that we all have ups and downs in life, but that when we hit a bad spot we will come out of the other side eventually. Not even a couple of weeks into the New Year, this is a good one to take a look at.
As I’ve mentioned in passing in previous posts, the judgement parents get for how they do or don’t deal with their children’s sleep really aggravates me. I love this post from Scary Mommy because it’s a nice reminder that parents should not feel guilty for staying with their children as they fall asleep. We rarely have to do it with Little H, but sometimes she needs an extra cuddle so she’ll get one to help her go back to bed happily. Also, as the post says, many adults don’t like going to sleep when their partner is away. So why would a child enjoy it?!
I’ve had this post from The Single Swan saved for a while and I finally got to reading it on New Years Eve. I loved the honesty and the general message. I have also seen feminism to just be a driver towards equality; not just between the sexes but between races, nationalities and anything else that is current used as a negative form of division.