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July 5, 2016 at 7:05 am by Angela
 

BIrthdayLast month it was my birthday. Whilst I was still awake early, Sam got up and went downstairs with H so I could have a lie-in; For breakfast we had some delicious pancakes and H decided to play ball and not throw any of it anywhere; We went out for a nice morning stroll in the sunshine; Then over H’s nap time I had a quiet read and opened a few presents (so they didn’t get pinched by little hands); When H woke-up we had a late long lunch in town where H enjoyed the people watching and ate all her food; A lazy afternoon followed where Sam and I watched a film as H played quietly; Bedtime went smoothly and then we had a delicious dinner before an early bedtime. The ideal birthday! The birthday that is absolutely nothing like what actually happened.

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February 19, 2016 at 4:26 pm by Angela
 

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I, the Baby, am entitled to

  1. Request food from Mummy at any moment of the day;
     
  2. Refuse said food if it isn’t exactly what I want at that point in time in one or more of the following ways:
    1. Throwing it on the floor, at the wall or at Mummy;
    2. Screaming, shouting or crying;
    3. Smashing the food to a pulp with both hands.
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February 15, 2016 at 3:30 pm by Angela
 

Days at home with the small one involve a lot of playing in the same room and pottering around the house. So it always comes as a surprise to me how tired I feel at the end of those days; More tired than when I am at work. But when I stop and think about what I actually do on the days I am at home, it makes sense. Because chasing after a baby-verging-on-toddler is DAMN HARD WORK!

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Standing & walking is the new ‘preferred’ state of being

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December 31, 2015 at 9:46 am by Angela
 

2015 has been another challenging year, but more for happy reasons that sad, especially when compared against last year. Whilst the losses of 2014 are still very much felt, the arrival of H at the start of the year brought a bit of sunshine back in to life again. It’s pushed me to many extremes but it’s ultimately been a wonderful year so here is the summary!

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December 12, 2015 at 3:49 pm by Angela
 

I saw this video a few weeks ago and came across it again today. I swear it must be impossible to watch this without laughing! H finds lots of things funny all the time, but we’ve never got her laughing as much as this little guy. Watch, smile and enjoy:

October 20, 2015 at 2:29 pm by Angela
 

I think it’s human nature to be competitive and to compare yourself against others. I know that I thrive on competition – sometimes with others, usually with myself; I continually need to have goals and targets to meet or to better. I’ve mentioned previously that I’ve struggled not having the clear goals a working environment brings during my maternity leave year. As the year has progressed and H has developed and grown, it would be incredibly easy to latch on to her ‘development milestones’ and use those to fuel my need for continual progression. But I’m going against my natural inclinations and trying to not do this because I don’t want to become a goal-driven parent.

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Rowing – my competitive outlet for years!

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May 19, 2015 at 8:05 pm by Angela
 

My friend had her baby a couple of days ago. As she messaged me updates from the hospital and throughout her first night with her newborn, it took me back to the day almost four months ago when Sam and I are going through the same thing. With a little bit of distance now from that craziness it really struck me that, more than anything else people experience, the birth of your first child is really the day when your entire world changes forever, in my opinion.

Of course life changing events happen to us all throughout our lives. But the sudden realisation that the tiny little helpless human in front of you is absolutely and completely your responsibility is huge . That responsibility feels even more so as a mother if you are breastfeeding because you are the sole source of food for your baby, whatever you may be doing and whatever time of day it is!

I occasionally think back to the day H was born and it induces a real mix of emotions. I still remember the pain and the exhaustion although those feelings are beginning to fade now (as the human brain does what it does well and makes you forget the bad bits). I also remember lying on the bed in the ward after Sam had gone home, looking at our little daughter sleeping and being both in awe and afraid at the same time. The realisation that if she needed anything when she woke it would be all on me seemed pretty strange. Surely I needed to get permission from the midwife first?!

Then there were those nights during the early weeks which are just a blur to me. The unrelenting crying (sometimes the baby, sometimes me, sometimes both!) and feeding whilst I was struggling to stay awake or to eat anything to keep up my energy. I don’t think I have found anything so tough in my life! Normally when things get difficult you can rely on losing yourself in sleep, but not with a baby.

Then of course there is the fact that you go from being a couple to being a family. Never again can we just go out for dinner on a whim. Never again will be go out for dinner without a little part of our mind and heart being left at home (under the care of someone we trust!).

It amazes me how the body and mind adapt though. After 16 weeks, night feeds seem normal to me and I’m used to the broken sleep. Of course I miss sleeping through but nowadays if I get 3-4 how in a row (which I did last night!) then I’m a happy bunny. Also the little smiling face I occasionally get in the middle of the night makes it worth it. After all, it’s not forever!

May 18, 2015 at 7:52 am by Angela
 

I previously wrote a blog post about the 8 things I couldn’t have lived without during our first three months with H. At the time I knew I was missing something but I couldn’t recall what. But last night whilst watching some episodes before bed I remembered:

  1. The Big Bang Theory:Yes, the TV sitcom ‘The Big Bang Theory‘. It’s been on TV for years but Sam and I had never watched it. In fact we thought it looked sort of silly and gave it a wide berth. A number of people had told us it was actually really our cup of tea and that we should try it. So in our zombified state in those early weeks we did give it a go. What we discovered was people weren’t lying – it is really funny! So we series linked everything we could and whenever we needed 20 mins of light relief we’d pop one on. In the end, I bought Sam the box set for his birthday so we are now watching them all in order. I suspect they will continue to keep us amused for some weeks to come! Thanks Leonard, Sheldon, Raj, Howard and Penny!

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Also, just for general amusement, here is a scene from an early episode which I only saw last week but which made me laugh more than any other BBT scene. Enjoy!

May 14, 2015 at 8:29 am by Angela
 

Although on the surface it defies logic that an overtired baby would sleep badly, it is in fact very true. I suppose thinking about the days where I have been truly worn out myself, I have often struggled to get to sleep. For the most part we have been good at catching such occasions where H has been overtired and got her to bed efficiently. However, the other night we were fooled in to thinking she had more energy than she did.

A couple of days ago she had her first swimming lesson with Water Babies. She really seemed to enjoy the 30 minute lesson but it tired her right out because she cried the entire time I was dressing her and had fallen asleep before I had even got her back to the car.

Happy Nappy

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May 11, 2015 at 6:08 pm by Angela
 

H is now three months old. I cannot believe it’s been that long already. Life has changed so much in that time but yet H being here also feels completely normal, as if she always has been. But getting to this point has been hard work and there are a number of things which being without would have made getting this far so much harder*!

  1. Tea: During pregnancy I completely went off tea. I was really hoping that I would want it again once the baby arrived. I didn’t drink any tea in hospital because it was yukky machine tea, but the first day we got home I had a cup and I haven’t looked back. My morning cuppa particularly really keeps me going;
  2. The washing machine: H goes through clothes at an astounding rate and to avoid buying a tonne of clothes for only a few months we have a wash load on every couple of days. Plus, sometimes there are ‘accidents’ which you just want to wash away ASAP!;
  3. A Tumble Dryer: We didn’t have a tumble dryer before I gave birth. Within a week of bringing H home, we had one. Now it’s sunny it’s easy enough to get clothes dry outside but in the early winter months we’d have had washing sat around for ages without one;
  4. My mobile phone: I use it for recording feeds, reading whilst feeding, keeping in touch with friends and taking LOTS of photos of H. I’d have been lost without it;
  5. My friends: They have let me moan and grumble throughout the whole experience. My best friend is about to have a baby herself so I am very much hoping I can return the favour!;
  6. My NCT group: They all gave birth before me so they’d either been through things before me or were going through them at the same time. They were a wonderful sounding board for issues and it was great to know I wasn’t alone. People often say you’re just ‘buying friends’ by going to NCT classes and that’s true to a degree, but they were worth every penny;
  7. My trainers: After about 4 weeks, I was out walking everyday and that still holds true. Pounding the pavements keeps me sane, keeps me active, gets both H and I some fresh air and if she’s in a tired / stressed / testing mood, will normally calm her down and often send her to sleep;
  8. Last but my no means least, Sam: In those early days especially when I was still recovering from birth, I came down with a bug and I was struggling with breast feeding, Sam was a rock. It was hard for him too but he kept our house running and kept me eating through the torturous night feeds. He deserves a medal for dealing with me in the state I was in sometimes!

Of course I’m not expecting the next three months will be any less challenging so I suspect these things will continue to be as valuable as before!

*First world problems I will admit!

Subsequent to this blog post being published, I realised I’d forgotten one crucial ninth ‘thing’ and called it out in a later post which can be found here!


 
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