Ah little H,
It has been an eventful month for us both! There have been so many happy and funny moments. But we also had to go through one of the scariest experiences of my life when you were poorly. I feel like you’ve grown so independent in the last 30 days. You want to do so much yourself, without Mummy or Daddy helping. Yet your need for us to be there to reassure you seems stronger than ever; More and more often you’ll come and grab ours hands to go with you on one of your ‘explorations’ (more often that not to get a snack!). This is your October:
I am very prone to craving foods and that’s what I’m taking this Day 9 to mean! Once I crave something, nothing will usually sate my appetite. Strangely during pregnancy I think I craved things less strongly than in my bump-free state! I have been known, on multiple occasions, to make a trip out to get something I really want to eat. Recently I have taken Little H on a walk to get an iced bun from the baker, a vanilla milkshake from Caffé Nero and to Morrisons to buy bags of Veggie Straws so H could eat them and I could pinch some! I have short-term cravings and then I have a couple of permanent cravings
Welcome to my monthly feature in which I share some of my favourite online articles for the month. I read a lot of blog posts and articles online and whilst I share a lot of them through tweets, it’s easy to miss them and hard to come back to them at another time. This is a list of my top ten reads for the month, a mixture of formal news articles and blog posts. I’ll confess upfront that this month I have actually included 11 – I just couldn’t choose which one to cull so thought it was only right to share them all. Enjoy!
Sitting watching TV yesterday evening, I realised it had been over a week since my last blog post. I’m not one of these people who strives to blog to a schedule but I do try and write something new each week. However, over the last week, during the little free time I’ve had, my brain has struggled to function. Fueled on tea I have had a very productive working week, but that followed by Mummy Duties at home have meant that now the week is at it’s end I have used up all energy reserves.
Back in the early days (which feel like forever ago now!) I wrote a couple of blog posts which sang the praises of the things which kept me sane, kept me functioning or kept me fed throughout the first 6 months of Motherhood. (For those of you who missed them then please take a look at 0-3 months and 3-6 months.) When I got to 9 months I considered doing another post, but things had become a little more predictable (*laughs hysterically at the irony of what she’s written*) so I held off. Now we’ve reached the one year milestone, it’s time to reflect back on the top 10 things (some you’ve seen and some new) that have helped me through this first twelve months! Let the countdown begin….
In at 10…
Two weeks ago most of our possessions were in boxes and the rest were haphazardly strewn around after being loaded in to a big truck (I didn’t think we had enough to fill it, but apparently we did!) having moved from our house of 8 years to our new family home. We are now pretty well settled in and it’s already feeling like home, but it’s been a hectic and tiring fortnight. Moving is difficult at the best of times, but with an almost-eight-month-old it was even more so. Fortunately she isn’t mobile yet so it could have been a lot harder, but she also won’t just lay passively in a buggy anymore and needs reasonably structured meal and nap times.
Whilst it might seem as though I have sufficient time since I am on maternity leave, in fact these days I struggle to get much done on some days. Looking after a small person is time-consuming on a good day; Throw in a bout of illness or a bad temper and even grabbing a drink can be tough. I doubt as a mother I am alone in sometimes finding it hard to get time for myself. There is always something that needs doing and coupled with the guilt complex most mothers have, it generally means that children, partner and housework all come before personal time.
But I have also come to learn that it’s important to have a bit of time to myself else I risk getting physically or mentally run-down. Whilst my pesky guilt-complex will kick in the moment I decided to kick-back on the sofa with a cup of tea once H has finally gone down for a nap, I fight to ignore it. Because if I don’t have 20 mins of rest then I risk not having the energy or tolerance for childcare as the day progresses.
So for anyone out there in a similar position who isn’t very good at taking time for their self, here are my suggestions of great ways to take a break:
So the Family Watling have reached the next major milestone as H is now six months old. Everyone I spoke to told me it would get easier from about three months and in many ways they are right. But easier does not mean easy! Certainly H has developed more tones and expressions that make it a bit easier to understand what she wants. She is also able to amuse herself a lot more. However she now demands a lot more engagement than previously since Mum and Dad are clearly to be a source of entertainment and amusement. She is also much less tolerant of things she doesn’t like; Expecting her to just sit in her buggy whilst I chat over tea and cake no longer flies!
H is now three months old. I cannot believe it’s been that long already. Life has changed so much in that time but yet H being here also feels completely normal, as if she always has been. But getting to this point has been hard work and there are a number of things which being without would have made getting this far so much harder*!
Of course I’m not expecting the next three months will be any less challenging so I suspect these things will continue to be as valuable as before!
*First world problems I will admit!
Subsequent to this blog post being published, I realised I’d forgotten one crucial ninth ‘thing’ and called it out in a later post which can be found here!